By Suzanne Sparrow Watson
The lovely blanket
On Christmas Day, as I arrived home from a wonderful celebration with family, I noticed a large box on my doorstep. I had just been with everyone who might possibly send me a gift, so my first thought was that once again I had ordered something from Amazon and completely forgotten about it. But no, the return address was Nordstrom Rack. I opened the box to find the most squishy, soft blanket, in colors that exactly match my decor. The only problem was there was no gift card. I perused the label looking for a clue and literally tore the box apart looking for a gift insert. Nope. Nothing. I decided to call Nordstrom Rack to see if they could help. After all, Nordstrom is known for their outstanding customer service. I called the customer service number for Nordstrom Rack and was immediately connected to someone in the far reaches of Southeast Asia. I explained my situation, told him the order number on the label, and asked if he could provide me with the name of the sender. “Oh, no, madam”, he says, “you would need to give me the name and email address of the person who sent the gift in order for us to provide that information.” Okay, maybe we had a language problem here. I explained again that if I had the name and the email address of the person who sent it, I wouldn’t be calling him. Again, he said that if I couldn’t provide that information, he couldn’t provide me with the name of the sender. Privacy issues, he stated. I tried another tack – I asked if he could provide me with the zip code of the sender. I thought at least that would narrow it down. Well, apparently the zip code request is the equivalent to the nuclear bomb codes and is not in the manual. He had to put me on hold to find a supervisor. When he came back on the line, he once again told me that for privacy reasons, I would need to give him the name and email address of the sender. I hung up … and gave up. The blanket is still intact, I feel too guilty to use it without having thanked whoever sent it.
The whole experience got me thinking about the state of customer service, or more accurately, the lack of customer service. Granted, there are still great examples of it out there. I recently had two unfortunate experiences with tires, and the good people at Discount Tire could not have been more helpful or kind. But generally, good customer service is an anomaly. I’m not alone in thinking this. I found a wonderful interview by Amas Tenumah, who wrote the book, Waiting for Service: An Insider’s Account of Why Customer Service is Broken and Tips to Avoid Bad Service. His research shows that Americans are incredibly gracious when they start out with customer support: on a scale of 1 to 10, he says most people start with expectations at nine or nine and a half. He describes how it goes downhill from there:
People start with a positive outlook about resolving a problem. But then they are met with an automated system — press one, press two — or a voice-recognition machine that asks the customer to state their name, account number, nature of the problem, etc. But oftentimes, the voice-recognition machine isn’t so good at voice recognition, or they are directed to a chatbot on a website. Once they’ve offered up all of their personal information (again) they might be connected to a human, and the human asks them to repeat the information. The goodwill at the beginning of the interaction that started at a nine, is now down to a four, and then, God forbid, the human says they need to transfer the call to another department.
Tenumah says there are a number of reasons why customer service may feel worse – a shortage in workers in some industries, the proliferation of tech as a part of the process, and a lack of incentive for companies without competition. As he accurately points out – have you ever tried to contact your internet provider about anything? His suggestion is that we need to change the social contract and not think of customer service reps as “low skill workers.” As he points out, by the time an issue reaches a human being they are usually complicated requests. If the problem was an easy one, a bot or a machine could have handled it.
I’m not sure it’s “we” who need to change the social contract as much as it is corporate America. I’m convinced this issue will not change in my lifetime, so I’ve learned to set my expectations low and reserve my DefCon 1 outbursts for truly egregious situations. All I know at this point is that due to Nordstrom Rack and their customer service policies, someone out there thinks I’m an ungrateful oaf who doesn’t know how to send a note of thanks.
I feel your pain! I usually end up just hanging up because of the utter incompetence of customer service reps. I’ve decided it’s basically non-existent!
Use your beautiful throw guilt free. I’m sure whoever sent it has figured out there was some “problem” when a thank you wasn’t sent. They know you would totally appreciate the gift.
I’m sure you’ve run into to bad CS a lot, having to set up a new household. I DID find out who sent the throw. Follow-up coming!
I always have a fresh cup of coffee (or later in the day a glass of wine) and a crossword puzzle ready to go before I dial the Customer Service number. Helps the time pass, not more quickly, just pass.
Agree, Pam. I usually have my iPad handy so I can play a game of some sort to pass the time.
My go to: ask for the supervisor as soon as rep 1 can’t help. When that doesn’t work, pull my best impression of my husband when indignant. If that doesn’t get me what I want, nothing will!
Me thinks some dear friend was sending you a “hug” in the form of a cozy blanket. Wrap yourself up in it and let the frustrations of bad customer service melt away. ❤️
Yes – indignant helps sometimes! I did find out who sent it so I’ll have a follow-up story – more bad customer service!!
I have found myself in this frustrating “ catch 22” situation a few too many times & as a result, I feel your pain. Matters not the store, privacy prevails. Since we share a similar professional background, I was bound & determined to break the secret code.
As a math major, I think that 90 % of people either assume the store will include a gift card , or will remind the purchaser that they inadvertently didn’t check the gift card box hidden away in their 22 pages of ads. People want to know you “ loved” their gift selection Vs thinking “ this so called friend can’t even pick up their phone & text @ proper thank you, or google Emily Post to see how those archaic thank you cards should be written.
Yes, I think there are some gift givers (8/9%) who just want anonymity & enjoy the thought of the gift receiver tearing their hair out looking to ID the sender, OR making some poor customer service rep’s day knowing the recipient will be calling to yell at them. Then maybe there are some philanthropic folks around (1-2%) who just want to be like “a secret Santa”.
So the only solution that has worked for me is to call the store, & ever so nicely explain my predicament & ask them ( ok tell in some cases) to call the sender & ask their permission to ID them for I KNOW the sender didn’t realize that a gift card wasn’t going to be included. Plus, when I finally do solve the mystery without their assistance & tell the sender the great lengths I went thru to find them, that store will be on the “store non gratis” list. Without fail, this has worked for me & all my senders gave permission to give me their name (nothing else needed) . Good luck dear friend. 🥰
Very good tips, Cheryl! I am now armed with better tools the next time something like this happens. In this case, my post worked and I found out who sent the gift. Follow-up coming!
First, what a lovely gesture from whomever sent your gift!
Second, I too have had problems with customer service. This job must be so difficult, so I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. And occasionally I get someone who is very helpful.
Post if you find who gifted you! Happy New Year!
Janet – I DID find out who sent the gift. Follow-up coming!!