This year marks the twenty-fifth anniversary of a wonderful little book, “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten”, by Reverend Robert Fulghum. For those of you too young – or too old – to remember, it included an essay proposing that the basic rules we learn as children teach us everything we need to get along as adults. It contains a list of 16 suggestions for a better life, ostensibly gleaned from the copious notes Fulghum took while still in elementary school.
I re-read his essay the other day and had to admit that there were some real gems on the list: play fair, clean up your own mess, and a current favorite of mine – take a nap every afternoon. All in all, I think his essay has held up pretty well after 25 years. With one notable exception. Reverend Fulghum’s #1 piece of advice was “Share Everything”.
It would appear that this particular tidbit has been taken a bit too literally. At some point between 1988 and now, it has become fashionable to SHARE EVERYTHING. Been in a public place lately? I’m betting that people on cell phones have “shared” lots of information with you. I’ve heard conversations about cheating husbands, women who neglect their children, steamy dating details and so many medical updates I could write for Web MD. Put a cell phone in someone’s hands in the public square and suddenly no detail is too intimate to share with the world.
Facebook is so enamored with the notion of sharing that it has a “Share” button, which makes it easy to delight our friends and family with an up-to-the-minute status of our activities. Personally, I love seeing pictures of my friends and their kids and animals. I even enjoy vacation pictures. But like everything else, some people have taken it to excess. I’ve read about colonoscopies, induced labor and ear wax. One particular bugaboo of mine is people who take pictures of their dinner plate at a restaurant and immediately post it on Facebook. Frankly, I could care less that some chi-chi chef has curled radicchio around a terrine of goat’s liver. I don’t even care about seeing a triple bacon cheeseburger, although that’s more to my liking. Here’s my take – if I wanted to see food on a plate I’d subscribe to Gourmet magazine.
But the most flagrant offender of over-sharing is Al Roker. He recently released a book outlining his journey through gastric bypass surgery. I have nothing against Mr. Roker or even gastric bypass, for that matter. But in the course of an interview Mr. Roker cited a passage from his book about the White House dinner he attended shortly after his operation. He then proceeded to tell the interviewer that – well, I won’t go into detail here but suffice it to say that he soiled his pants.
Talk about TMI! Why in the hell would someone go on national TV and admit that? I can tell you one thing based on personal experience: you will never look at Al Roker in quite the same way again.
But back to Reverend Fulghum’s book. The “share everything” bit notwithstanding, I do think there is a lot of common sense in his list and God knows that is something that is in short supply these days. So in the interest of sharing and promoting common sense, here is his list:
- Share everything.
- Play fair.
- Don’t hit people.
- Put things back where you found them.
- Clean up your own mess.
- Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
- Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
- Wash your hands before you eat.
- Flush.
- Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
- Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
- Take a nap every afternoon.
- When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
- Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
- Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die. So do we.
- And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned – the biggest word of all – LOOK.
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Great blog…I’ll reread that book!